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holdingtwenty · 07-28-2010, 10:02 AM

To Tamara24:

I agree our dogs were our kids. She may feel lonely but I was always there for her. So has my dad who lives very close by. The day after our 2nd dog passed, she did not even hug me. The very next day she left to see her friend in Miami (3 hours away from me) for around 5 days. I was left grieving alone. I do not think we can handle another dog right now. We still have our 12 year old cat now and it would be hard for the cat to live with a puppy right now. The way our relationship is going, I do not want to fall in love with my dog and have her take it away if we separate.

I brought up counseling to her and she thought it was stupid. As I wrote before, she feels she has no problem and she wants to be in FL for at least 10 months of the year or too bad for me. She makes fun of the fact that I love and want to be around my family. I don't care and I am proud of it. We sat down about this many times and she thinks I am being unreasonable. Every single person I talk to about this thinks she is making a great mistake because she relies on me for so many things. This includes my parents, her parents, her sister, and some of my friends. I am a very independent-self sufficient person on the outside, but emotionally I really rely on her.

We have discussed her returning to FL in Sept. I do not want to go to FL until Dec. So I have told her I cannot hold her back and she can go but I cannot handle being away from her for so long and be a married couple. What kind of marriage is that? She would get all the benefit (Financially) while I sit in NY crying and wanting her. That is why I brought up signing a separation agreement.

I want to thank you for reading this. Although I am upset right now as I write, it does make me feel better. It is very hard for me to cope as I am alone right now.

07-28-2010, 10:02 AM	#5 (permalink)
holdingtwenty Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Orange County, NY Posts: 28	Re: I am so upset, lonely and lost To Tamara24: I agree our dogs were our kids. She may feel lonely but I was always there for her. So has my dad who lives very close by. The day after our 2nd dog passed, she did not even hug me. The very next day she left to see her friend in Miami (3 hours away from me) for around 5 days. I was left grieving alone. I do not think we can handle another dog right now. We still have our 12 year old cat now and it would be hard for the cat to live with a puppy right now. The way our relationship is going, I do not want to fall in love with my dog and have her take it away if we separate. I brought up counseling to her and she thought it was stupid. As I wrote before, she feels she has no problem and she wants to be in FL for at least 10 months of the year or too bad for me. She makes fun of the fact that I love and want to be around my family. I don't care and I am proud of it. We sat down about this many times and she thinks I am being unreasonable. Every single person I talk to about this thinks she is making a great mistake because she relies on me for so many things. This includes my parents, her parents, her sister, and some of my friends. I am a very independent-self sufficient person on the outside, but emotionally I really rely on her. We have discussed her returning to FL in Sept. I do not want to go to FL until Dec. So I have told her I cannot hold her back and she can go but I cannot handle being away from her for so long and be a married couple. What kind of marriage is that? She would get all the benefit (Financially) while I sit in NY crying and wanting her. That is why I brought up signing a separation agreement. I want to thank you for reading this. Although I am upset right now as I write, it does make me feel better. It is very hard for me to cope as I am alone right now.