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lostnotgone · 07-30-2010, 11:44 AM

Abortion has been discussed but is not an option for a few different reasons (medical).

Orion, you are right that I have spent a lot of time concerned with her feelings and only recently as I have pushed back on her actions has she realized the love and importance of our relationship. However, the pregnancy information changed things quite a bit. She does not know what role the father will have in the child's life. But she has taken responsibility and shown remorse for what happened.

The question I am really wrestling with is what is of paramount importance in a relationship? I know there are the conscious things like trust, honest, openness. But those are things that can be asked for and granted or denied. I keep coming back to the sub-conscious drivers of a relationship, the things that you body, mind, heart and soul feel because of who the other person is, how they live, what they believe and want. Those are the things that drew me to her and the things that I'm not sure what it would take to violate. This (pregnancy) may be, but so far I don't think so because I still feel the way I do.

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lostnotgone Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 6	Re: Infidelity and Pregnancy Abortion has been discussed but is not an option for a few different reasons (medical). Orion, you are right that I have spent a lot of time concerned with her feelings and only recently as I have pushed back on her actions has she realized the love and importance of our relationship. However, the pregnancy information changed things quite a bit. She does not know what role the father will have in the child's life. But she has taken responsibility and shown remorse for what happened. The question I am really wrestling with is what is of paramount importance in a relationship? I know there are the conscious things like trust, honest, openness. But those are things that can be asked for and granted or denied. I keep coming back to the sub-conscious drivers of a relationship, the things that you body, mind, heart and soul feel because of who the other person is, how they live, what they believe and want. Those are the things that drew me to her and the things that I'm not sure what it would take to violate. This (pregnancy) may be, but so far I don't think so because I still feel the way I do.