It really is ok to tell someone "I need you to do THIS" to me until I am satisfied. And then after that, we can do what you want. If he refuses then get out of bed. Selfish sex is bad for the person whose needs are being ignored.
Originally Posted by Gracey_86
i have been with my man for a year now and up til now our sex life was great. about a month ago things kinda went sour. he still enjoys sex but not me. it not that he is not good, it just we do the same thing almost every night and i have gotten so bored that i can not get excited anymore. i have tried to talk to him and bring new ideas, but he seems to just shot them down and forget about them. i have even tried showing him what i like in the bedroom when in the moment. but that doesn't help either, and to make things worse when we are done, he rolls over and fell asleep. i feel like he has sex with me for just him self. i have tried everything that i can think of. but i don't know where to go. am afraid that if we don't find something to fix it, am not going to be able to stay with him. i really don't want that. but it is slowly starting to affect our relationships outside the bedroom.. please help..