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Really that is like any other profession, there are health hazards that should be managed properly. STDs for another.
Porn is a completely unnecessary "profession". Handling medical waste or handling chemicals in a paint factory is something that is by-and-large, necessary in our world. If porn was no longer made, people would still have sex.
I had the same dream - and I also know now it's a lie. Women fall completely and entirely for another man - whereas the porn use is a sexual release which is forgotten about straight after. Which is the bigger lie?
Men fall for other women
all the time. You are being a sneak here, in trying to suggest that men are physically faithful, but only use porn----whilst women are physically unfaithful but don't use porn. Some women are okay with porn. Some go along with it to be the cool chick, who's savvier and sexier than us pathetic "prudes" who don't like porn.
But it's interesting. Young women are more into porn than women, say, over 40. It will be interesting as the porn industry expands to cater to a female market.
How *will* young husbands feel when their wives start preferring porn to them? How will they feel when their wife or gf. has to see other guys' c.oc.ks before she can get turned on enough to have sex with him. How will these guys feel when their wife needs to have a porn on during sex so she can watch one
her favorite male performers while having sex with her husband?
From what I've learned about men's
retroactive sexual jealousy over
past boyfriends; these guys are not going to be happy.
Yes, of course. I have done. My daughter has no illusions about men. I wish someone had told me the same about the true nature of women.
Wow, well I'm glad you have told your daughter what to expect with regards to porn and men. And yes, it's good that you don't see women as idealized princesses.
Marriage and human sexual relationships are being changed by pornography, no doubt. And perhaps it's good to know the truth. The truth is hard and leaves no room for ideals, or romance. But, yes, it is still better.
You are rationalising here big time. Why read them???? The world of a book can be more real and absorbing than a film. You imagine yourself in that situation - otherwise there's no point to it. Anyone who reads a lot knows this.
But there is no-one there. You imagine an idea. There is no substance.
When I masturbate, I rarely think about men. Sometimes when I orgasm, the faces of men that I've been attracted to, kind of flash before my eyes. In the past, I had fantasies in my mind. Now I mostly think of disembodied erect penises. Because that's what I crave to have sex.
I'm telling you this to make the point that we all have sexual imagery in our minds. *Especially* if you were born and raised in the last half of the 20th century. I think men call this their "spank bank".
It's not possible to go through life at this time in history without absorbing images of a sexual nature. They are abundant.
Why seek out more? Why hurt your significant other? My husband told me that he use to masturbate to the women's underwear models in the JCPenney catalog that we had mailed to our home.
And if you guys really have such insatiable sexual appetites, physical stimulation of your penises for a couple of minutes while thinking about some great cleavage you've seen recently on some women bending over in front of you in line at the grocery store [or whatever]; should be enough? Right? Why isn't it enough? I mean, you're just aching to bust a nut, right? My husband used to ejaculate before entering me on a semi-regular basis. If you're crazy horny, it doesn't take much. I'm a woman with a fraction of the testosterone you have, and I know that.
None of us are pure. But you don't have to seek out more sexual stimulation from someone other than your spouse.
Having images of the teenage girl next door in your mind while you masturbate is a fire......watching porn of having sex with teenage girls is pouring gasoline on that fire. Isn't thinking about the girl enough.
And of course I wish that my husband hadn't found every other attractive sexy woman in sight enough to ogle and masturbate to; but that's probably unavoidable, to a large extent. He isn't seeing them fully naked. And he isn't watching them having sex. And those women were not having to work in pornography in order to "entertain" him. So although having your boyfriend rubberneck a group of pretty young girls when you are walking in the mall with him is embarrassing. Minimal damage is done when he jerks off to the memory of them in the shower.
If you can't [or won't] see the difference between images that you are unavoidable exposed to in real life.....and the manufactured images of nitroglycerin grade porn.....then I don't know how to explain it. I apologize for my lack of articulation.
Yes I've read some. I don't do it anymore because it's much much worse than watching porn. Not only do you get the full sexual details, you also get to feel how the person was enjoying cheating (and it's mostly cheating of one sort or another) or whatever it was they were doing.
I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. Reading words on a page about people that don't exist doing things that never happened can't possible compare to
actual real humans being recorded performing some of the craziest sh.t imaginable. There is no comparison. And people in porn scenarios are cheating frequently; mostly from what I can tell. And if your watching it that's part of the turn on.
Would you be OK with your man using that?
Cartoon porn, CGI? It's the lesser of two evils. I still find it soulless for married adults to use pornography to get aroused and get off. It's kind of pathetic. I guess I always thought of pornography as being for guys who were single; or for perverts.
I always thought of sex as being between just two people; in every way.
There's an enormous difference for a man orgasming to porn or masturbating and making love to someone he truly loves. One is like a good pee after holding it in all day while the other is like nothing else on earth,
I don't get that impression at all. I'll take your word for it that that's your experience.
But modern research is showing that for younger men, at least, who have been "raised" on porn----porn is far more satisfying and exciting than their real partners. If you don't believe me, investigate yourbrainonporn. Or Google "my husband prefers porn to me". You'll see how porn is now often a man's sex-of-choice, despite his wife/gf. lying in bed waiting for him. Check out some of the threads on this site in the SIM section.
This here is the problem. This shows he doesn't love or respect you. I or any decent man would NEVER do this.
You're referring to my husband comparing my body to more attractive bodies he's seen in porn.
He "loves" me. I am simply not as pretty as the women he viewed for years in print and film pornography. They are his ideal. He had very little verbal filtering when he was young and he told me what he thought.
Harsh and lacerating, yes. But honest. He's just more honest.
This is really sad. I think you have never had a man who truly loved you.
In the physical/sexual sense; I would have to agree with you. My husband loves me in other ways.
I
actually think a lot of that is because of the shame men feel around sex and porn; and the whole PC world we live in; if it was called instead "Respectful man has loving sex with career driven woman" I'd still watch it, but I'd somehow feel someone was in there manipulating this area of my life too.
You've got to be kidding me. The nasty-a.s.sed titles are what draws guys in. They allude to what the content is going to be like. A potent mixture of sex and hatred.
So you did this without talking to him first? I somehow get the feeling you DELIBERATELY left it there so he could find it. I can see how he was annoyed. At least he was upfront about his porn use with you.
I started asking him in 2013 to please have sex with me. Please have sex with me more often. Why don't we have sex as much anymore?
Meeting him at the door and asking him to come to bed and have sex.
Walking into the living room while he's watching TV and asking him to come and have sex.
Reaching over to him in bed and getting my hand pushed away.
So, he knew I wanted sex. He now knows he has low testosterone. He takes anti-depressants too. So, yes, he is now a 50-something guy with a much lower sex drive.
And I have told him point blank to his face that oral with fingers would be great. Just fingering would be great.
And he has less and less interest.
So I bought a sex toy for the first time in my life. And I don't know if I subconsciously left it by the sink for him to find. I know I didn't think about it much either way.
But, I didn't hide it from him. And he doesn't take my requests for sex seriously.
Interesting that you automatically blame me and take his side [the side of porn use]. But, okay.
Porn was not the problem here. Your husband's disrespect was.
I think porn and disrespect go hand in hand. But that's probably due to my experiences.
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