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post #11 of (permalink) Old 01-14-2017, 09:53 PM
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Re: Wife had a 6 month "emotional affair" with a married man

Over the past 5 days she's seemed remorseful and not at the same time, if that makes sense?
Sounds like regret. That's not remorse.

Your wife is unlikely to admit to anything you can't prove or unless she winds up feeling actual remorse and wants to repair the damage she's caused by being honest. You're better off keeping up the 180 and having her served with divorce papers (don't tell her you're doing this). Maybe then she'll see how serious you are and she'll be motivated to save her marriage.

And of course you still love your wife. It's not like people get cheated on and suddenly they fall out of love. But love alone isn't enough to sustain a marriage. Especially one damaged by infidelity and lies. Your wife is not showing remorse for what she did. Reconciliation shouldn't even be a consideration until she does.

"The one who is most willing to walk away from the relationship, is the one who controls the relationship."

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