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2blu · 10-27-2007, 02:49 PM

I am hoping that someone can shed some light here. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, no children, my second marriage, his third. Slowly over the years he has 'quit' friends, shared activities and a few days ago told me he was 'done' (with us). As things that we shared in the past dwindled, I started taking more interest in things I love. He has told me that he is not interested in the things I am interested in and has no desire to offer a suggestion for something we can both share. We love to travel and yet now he will not go anywhere with me. He says he is very happy sitting and watching TV. I am active in a gym 3 days a week and have lost weight recently which he is not happy about. He has told me from the beginning that he isn't at my level and that I would find someone else and leave him. I have NOT and started to resent the insinuation after awhile. I really am having trouble giving up all the things I love to do without alternatives and being shot down for taking care of myself. He may feel threatened, but I can't get him to talk. I want to live and he either has given up on life or just me, but he will not talk about it. I am hurt and yet feel helpless when met with silence and an unwilliness to make things better. I don't want to give up.

10-27-2007, 02:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
2blu Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 3	Can't Get Through I am hoping that someone can shed some light here. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, no children, my second marriage, his third. Slowly over the years he has 'quit' friends, shared activities and a few days ago told me he was 'done' (with us). As things that we shared in the past dwindled, I started taking more interest in things I love. He has told me that he is not interested in the things I am interested in and has no desire to offer a suggestion for something we can both share. We love to travel and yet now he will not go anywhere with me. He says he is very happy sitting and watching TV. I am active in a gym 3 days a week and have lost weight recently which he is not happy about. He has told me from the beginning that he isn't at my level and that I would find someone else and leave him. I have NOT and started to resent the insinuation after awhile. I really am having trouble giving up all the things I love to do without alternatives and being shot down for taking care of myself. He may feel threatened, but I can't get him to talk. I want to live and he either has given up on life or just me, but he will not talk about it. I am hurt and yet feel helpless when met with silence and an unwilliness to make things better. I don't want to give up.