Originally Posted by is it me?

Is it wrong to tell your mate that you cannot do a seperation, that it's either we work things out or we divorce if we cannot seem to work it out? I have a horrible wondering mind, trust issues, etc. I was cheated on in my first marriage so I dont think I could handle a seperation because if we did get back together my mind would be so warped into thinking "who was she with while we weren't together", "did she become promiscuous and sleep with several people" and "does she still think of those other people and still have contact with these other men"

I know I think way to much, but am I the only one?