Re: red flags everywhere or am I crazy?
She said she would take a polygraph, but I know those don't work. She volunteered
Then call her bluff and do it. A polygraph with an experienced administer has about a 93% accuracy. Your wife right now with all her lies and conveniently timed memory lapses offers basically no chance of you getting the truth. You can either do the test and get some clarity, choose not to believe your wife because of all the lies and act accordingly, or choose to believe her and always wonder.