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marriedNjacksonvilleFL · 08-12-2010, 08:58 PM

This is my first time ever posting and i think i know the answer yet my so called love of my life means so much to me. I have been married for 4.5 years and we have 2 kids, about 4 months ago my wife comes home from a girls night out and had a little to much to drink and is real paranoid about her phone. so after she passes out i take sneek at her logged calls and text. there is a number i dont recognise and i question her the next day. over the past 4 months the text are to a so called JUST friend that she has only known since january!!! the text that i have read are meaningless, but i am extremly paranoid now and check the cell phone bill daily and their are text that are deleted. like alot of post she blames me, invasion of privacy etc. our marriage has been rocky the past year and i think with at least 30-40 text a day that there is more to there relationship........ she lies and hides her phone when i am around now and i havent been able to read a single text. but i dont want a divorce for my kids sake...... but i dont know what to do if we divorce i am screwed for she is a stay at home mom. i did put a logger on the computer and there is never an email or anything typed to him, just text if she has a girls night he always meets her out. she tells me that he just moved here and that he doesnt know anyone. they met because his parents live nwxt door to my in-LAWS. the inlaws know and they are my side because all i want is what is best for my kids, at this point the whole family seems to be against her and agree with me. that a married women or man doesnt have single friends of the opposite sex( at least text and hang out alone) am i wrong to think she is cheating on me and how do i really find out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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marriedNjacksonvilleFL Registered User Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 1	Just a Friend Or More to IT This is my first time ever posting and i think i know the answer yet my so called love of my life means so much to me. I have been married for 4.5 years and we have 2 kids, about 4 months ago my wife comes home from a girls night out and had a little to much to drink and is real paranoid about her phone. so after she passes out i take sneek at her logged calls and text. there is a number i dont recognise and i question her the next day. over the past 4 months the text are to a so called JUST friend that she has only known since january!!! the text that i have read are meaningless, but i am extremly paranoid now and check the cell phone bill daily and their are text that are deleted. like alot of post she blames me, invasion of privacy etc. our marriage has been rocky the past year and i think with at least 30-40 text a day that there is more to there relationship........ she lies and hides her phone when i am around now and i havent been able to read a single text. but i dont want a divorce for my kids sake...... but i dont know what to do if we divorce i am screwed for she is a stay at home mom. i did put a logger on the computer and there is never an email or anything typed to him, just text if she has a girls night he always meets her out. she tells me that he just moved here and that he doesnt know anyone. they met because his parents live nwxt door to my in-LAWS. the inlaws know and they are my side because all i want is what is best for my kids, at this point the whole family seems to be against her and agree with me. that a married women or man doesnt have single friends of the opposite sex( at least text and hang out alone) am i wrong to think she is cheating on me and how do i really find out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!