oceanbreeze

hi areoz!

this kind of situation happens to me all the time in my relationship! my fiance is a weak man, but learning to put his foot down. all a long in our relationship he has been able to be conquered by the guys and of course his mother and stepmom. and in all of it has been manipulation.

what it sounds to me is that ur fiance's guy bf is being manipulative because he is jealous of you. you are having all of ur fiance to yourself as he is losing his best friend from highschool. what i suggest is that you discuss with your fiance when to have your time together and then his social time with this buddy of his. see how this goes. ur fiance then would think that you care very much for his friendship and that he sustains it with this guy that they should just be together. like a guy's night out. and the rest of the time is you too. besides just living together, try having a date every friday or saturday or at least every 2 weeks. like one week ur fiance plans something. then in 2 weeks you plan a surprise something. each of you cannot complain because this is YOUR time together and that both of you are developing and growing your relationship as a couple. so in between those 2 weeks of your date with your fiance, his buddy can see him. for e.g. 1st friday of the month is you two, next friday his buddy and him, next friday after that you two, and then the friday after that his buddy.

just try this suggestion. see if it works. and the best part is that you still have your fiance with you most of the time because you live together. and since guys talk. well picture this. you suggest this. he ends up telling his buddy, his buddy may think well, that's a good idea. she wants us to spend time together. and then maybe all that crap this buddy of his is saying will lessen.

~oceanbreeze~