Re: Husband dictates when arguments are over
Originally Posted by UnicornCupcake View Post
Have you tried NOT asking him to do anything? I mean, what's the point if all he's going to do is turn the tables and snap on your for doing so. You can't control his response, but you can control instigating his response. Don't give him an opportunity to turn that ONE diaper he changed into EVERY diaper. My suggestion isn't a long term fix, no, but it will give you a bit more power. There's a power struggle going on here and sometimes, it's better to just do everything yourself. Then you won't have anyone dumping on your for this/that. I guess I don't see the point in putting myself in a position to get snapped at in the first place. Maybe this will give you some peace while you collect your thoughts and figure out what you want to do next? Either way, it might be worth a try. A change in dynamic is needed here.
I agree. There is definitely a power struggle here and lord knows I could do with some respit from the madness.
Maybe for the short run it would be worth it, give him no reason to get snotty and when he does shut him down quick.
But long term no way, he's either in it with me 100% or 0% .