Originally Posted by BuddyL33
Without hard evidence there is no clear cut way to say she is cheating or not. What she IS doing is being dishonest about the relationship and that's not cool. If it is a friendship there should be full transparency.
My wife recently did something similar. She was seeing an ex and lying about it to me. The relationship was platonic, there was no PA. But it bordered on an EA only for the fact that she was using him as an escape from me. She wasn't in love with him or falling in love with him or anything. Just wanted to hang out and BS just to get away from me.
If you aren't cool with this and it compromises who you are then I say snoop. Make sure you have something concrete before you approach her with anything. She's not being completely open with you on this so IMO she has no right to be angry because her actions justify yours. Just my 2 cents.
Feel free to read what I went through. In the end my wife and I are divorcing. Not because of the EA, but because of the issues that led up to the EA. Infidelity or Not Infidelity
You make some terrific points buddy. I just posted a new thread (shoudl i outright leave or try to work it out) - would love to hear your take on my situation.