Re: Vacation separately - sign we are in trouble?
Yes she has kids as well. And as I said her ex was very controlling. So you hit it on the nail with the independence. She's made that comment before. Saying that we should be able to do our own thing. Which yes. To a degree. But like you said we need interdependence where we talk about things. And she doesn't see it that way. She views talking about it as a way of control. Bc of her past.
Then, why did she get married? Yes, it's good to have separate interests, etc. But, if she just wants to live like she's single, and just say she's married, then why did she get married.