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post #7 of (permalink) Old 04-20-2017, 04:30 AM
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Re: Has feelings for a women

Originally Posted by Mr.Doormat View Post
Where to begin. Was told 4 weeks ago that my wife felt we were more like friends and not as a couple. Lacked passion. I was negative and needed to change. Went to a shrink. Started to look at some options for low testosterone. Basically I was the a hole of the relationship. Turns out I am not that messed up. If anything I have been looking at a lot of things in the wrong frame of mind. Small issues were just over analyzed...until today when I find out she has feelings for a women. A women who is a lesbien and works at her school! She said she has feeings for her and is not sure what to do. And she said its not me. Im a great husband, great father, no reason to leave you, treat me like a why are you interested in women? Now I'm a mess, hence Mr.Doormat! What the hell do I do now? My in laws will support her and want to get her some help. I just cant for the life of me figure out A, What went wrong and B. What do I do now. We have a 4 year old son who is in the middle. Any advice would be great. Yes I love her and cant see myself with out her. Have no clue what is next.
If she has not cheated yet I think couple's counselling and individual counselling might be of benefit.

She should not have any further contact with the woman concerned.

I really had strong feelings for a female colleague. And what did I do about this? Not a damn thing. Never even let anyone know and certainly did not let impact on my marriage.

Your wife must do the same. (Be afraid UK cheaters! CheaterVille has come to the UK!
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