Re: Ending Limbo?
Divorce is not admitting defeat. It's often the only sensible decision. Staying in a marriage with someone you can't trust is admitting defeat.
My marriage was three times longer than yours and when my ex-husband resumed contact with the same OW he had promised decades before he would never again be in contact with, I divorced him without a second thought. He had gotten another chance and he blew it. And, yes, there were all those promises that he didn't mean it and it would never happen again and I was the only one he loved. I didn't buy it the second time.
I wish my marriage had worked but it didn't so I fixed the problem.