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greeneyeddolphin · 08-23-2010, 02:35 PM

I think there's more going on than just a lack of interest in sex for her. For me, whenever we are able to be together (he's a truck driver, and if he's on the road...), I am always willing, so in those instances, yes, I would be very upset if he chose to DIY it instead of coming to me. But when we are physically apart, if one or the other of us is in the mood, we don't have any other options (aside from cheating, which we won't do), and so in those instances, of if I were unwilling while he was here, no I wouldn't be upset or offended. We all have needs. And if he were here, and I was not in the mood, I would certainly be willing to do something to help him out.

The fact that she is not willing, and doesn't seem to think anything of the fact that you are doing this tells me that there is more to this than just a lack of interest in sex. Instead of the passive aggressive approach you seem to have taken thus far, sit down and talk to her and just come right out and ask her what's up here. Explain how she seems bored, uninterested, point out how you've helped her when she's in the mood and you aren't, and you're wondering why she's not reciprocating when the shoe's on the other foot.

08-23-2010, 02:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
greeneyeddolphin Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 1,492	Re: Caught masturbating I think there's more going on than just a lack of interest in sex for her. For me, whenever we are able to be together (he's a truck driver, and if he's on the road...), I am always willing, so in those instances, yes, I would be very upset if he chose to DIY it instead of coming to me. But when we are physically apart, if one or the other of us is in the mood, we don't have any other options (aside from cheating, which we won't do), and so in those instances, of if I were unwilling while he was here, no I wouldn't be upset or offended. We all have needs. And if he were here, and I was not in the mood, I would certainly be willing to do something to help him out. The fact that she is not willing, and doesn't seem to think anything of the fact that you are doing this tells me that there is more to this than just a lack of interest in sex. Instead of the passive aggressive approach you seem to have taken thus far, sit down and talk to her and just come right out and ask her what's up here. Explain how she seems bored, uninterested, point out how you've helped her when she's in the mood and you aren't, and you're wondering why she's not reciprocating when the shoe's on the other foot.