| | Re: How to deal with the anger...
Heard Dr. Phil say recently that the best predictor of future behavior is relevant, recent behavior.
I've had a tendency of dominating our therapy sessions. Tomorrow night I'm planning to simply say that I think this "clean slate" thing is totally bogus and selfish. Expect my wife to make 100 excuses - to which I will try to calmly respond "I disagree" and ask the therapist - "What do you think?"
One thing that my wife does well is isolate me. She knows I don't like to talk to people - tries to "shame me" when I do. So lately, I've quit arguing - tell her I disagree - tell her that it seems we are "stuck" in our positions - and that I would prefer to have these types of discussions in therapy.
Not sure if this is a "good" sign or just stupid - but I was the one who kept saying "I'm done" last night when she tried explaining her "clean slate" theory. Its based on the idea that she's really done nothing wrong. I disagree.