Originally Posted by BigBadWolf
But my wife encouraged me, so much with her behavior and even her silence and especially her reaction afterwards to my behavior, to not miss the deeper message in this movie, that so much of modern love story movies is full of a monochromatic view of affection and it is indeed proper, in many relationships, to explore other expressions of affection, maybe stronger and maybe darker, but even so maybe more honest on some levels. That is very appealing to me.
My h and I have watched this, and I still have no desire to be spanked! Seriously, though, I completely agree that on a more general level, sharing this with your spouse can be a way to generate dialogue to explore other things, even if dominance is not one's cup of tea.
Generally speaking, many women are conditioned to not speak openly about sex, and men understandably are left worried that if they suggest something different, will their wife will be receptive, look at them as if they've lost their mind or be on the receiving end of the frying pan? I guess if I were a guy in this position, I wouldn't pop this into the dvd player.
But my take: while some scenes of this film were more disturbing than erotic for me, the overall sexual tension was still very much present.