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greeneyeddolphin · 08-30-2010, 05:58 AM

I agree with jc32, your hubby sounds like a loser. I saw no mention in there anywhere of anything that you're really getting out of this relationship.

To me, it sounds like he gets off on treating you like crap. Unless you get off on that, too, I don't really see the reason to stay. If you want to work it out and stay, then I definitely think that counseling is in order. I don't see him ever changing just because you say so; he'll need counseling, a professional to make him see that what he's doing is wrong. And even then he may not see it and change.

You mentioned that the kids are actually his from a previous relationship. Given their ages, I have to guess you two haven't been together too long...how long were you together before you got married? I ask this because one thing to consider is that perhaps he was simply looking for someone to take care of his children so he wouldn't have to? I hate having to suggest that to you, because I know how much that would hurt me, but given the way he treats you...I can't help but wonder.

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greeneyeddolphin Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 1,492	Re: Please help!!! I agree with jc32, your hubby sounds like a loser. I saw no mention in there anywhere of anything that you're really getting out of this relationship. To me, it sounds like he gets off on treating you like crap. Unless you get off on that, too, I don't really see the reason to stay. If you want to work it out and stay, then I definitely think that counseling is in order. I don't see him ever changing just because you say so; he'll need counseling, a professional to make him see that what he's doing is wrong. And even then he may not see it and change. You mentioned that the kids are actually his from a previous relationship. Given their ages, I have to guess you two haven't been together too long...how long were you together before you got married? I ask this because one thing to consider is that perhaps he was simply looking for someone to take care of his children so he wouldn't have to? I hate having to suggest that to you, because I know how much that would hurt me, but given the way he treats you...I can't help but wonder.