So about a month ago I came on here and posted about how me and my husband are having marital issues, I'm still in love with him but he feels like he is no longer in love with me (it was sort of a long post, so can't explain much more)...We are working on things and have started going on more weekly dates and spending more time together.
WELL...I being a female..I like to talk, I like to know what he's feeling and I want to know how his feelings are changing,etc...Him being a guy, wellll he doesn't like to talk, doesn't like to express his feelings, etc. So, when we first had our discussion a month ago, I told him that I didn't want him to tell me "I love you" if it wasn't true, I didn't want him to lie to me like that and have to make himself say something he didn't really mean, he said that was fair and that the next time he says it will be when he feels like he's "in love with me again". I dont know if that was a good suggestion on my part or not but it's been a month since he's said "I love you" and I know marriages dont get fixed over night or even in a month, so this is where i just need some words of encouragement. I'm feeling discouraged because he hasn't said it, even though I am fully aware of how long a marriage can take to mend. I really wish he would just update me and let me know if things are getting better for him. A couple of weeks ago he said that things are "a bit better" and he's very monotone so even though it was a positive thing, i can't see it very positively.
So, I just need some encouragement to help me get through this time of waiting....just waiting for him to tell me he loves me. He's also not a very touchy-feely kinda guy so i dont ever really feel loved
... I'm very sad all the time now and sitting around not being able to tell my husband i love him or him say it to me really hurts.