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1. Stop your woman's EAs. Until they stop, nothing will improve in your marriage. Nothing.
2. These violence outbursts, emotional displays, this all must end. Now. And this must come from YOUR leadership and direction. That means take active and deliberate steps, join this violence prevention program, and calmly tell your woman about your steps that you have ALREADY put in place. Do not make promises about this in any way, only AFTER you have already taken the action will it do any good to speak about it to your woman.
3. In this same attitude as number 2, pursue the marriage counceling. Not in some "honey I'll promise to do better" attitude, but a deliberate attitude that you are determine to fix what is needing to be fixed, and you are backing everything up with action.
These things will help.
I wish you well.