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swedish · 09-22-2008, 12:35 PM

LadyinBlue,

This is very similar to my experience & there are 2 things that totally stand out in your post. You see your role in the distance within your marriage. Although you didn't cross that line, you can understand why he did at that point in your marriage. These are the exact things that enabled me to move forward and our marriage is stronger and closer than ever before.

As far as how you are feeling, you need to heal at your pace and a week is certainly not enough time, IMO. Let him apologize and respond with "I know". There's nothing wrong with letting him know that you think everything he's doing now is great and you feel your marriage will be better than ever, but the hurt is still raw and real and you can't turn it off like a switch. If he wishes you could, tell him you wish that even more but you want to work through your feelings, not bury them and have them reappear down the road.

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swedish Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 2,521	Re: Is it normal to feel like your going crazy??? LadyinBlue, This is very similar to my experience & there are 2 things that totally stand out in your post. You see your role in the distance within your marriage. Although you didn't cross that line, you can understand why he did at that point in your marriage. These are the exact things that enabled me to move forward and our marriage is stronger and closer than ever before. As far as how you are feeling, you need to heal at your pace and a week is certainly not enough time, IMO. Let him apologize and respond with "I know". There's nothing wrong with letting him know that you think everything he's doing now is great and you feel your marriage will be better than ever, but the hurt is still raw and real and you can't turn it off like a switch. If he wishes you could, tell him you wish that even more but you want to work through your feelings, not bury them and have them reappear down the road.