Originally Posted by sunshine31
Especially as of the last two weeks I feel like I am a weak person. I am not a person to point out faults or make people feel bad about things they do, but I am now feeling like I need to. Background....been married 9 months, happy for the most part. My husband gets frustrated at me for not making decisions because I am a very chill, go with the flow person, but if i really want to do or not do something, I will state what I want. He thinks he has to make all the decisions but i often feel like I don't want to tell him what to do cause he typically questions it and immediate takes the opposite route or i hate the tone of response I get. Anyway...two weekends ago things went nuts. I won't go into details but he threw me across the boat and then later after i left him and the boat at the dock cause he was so crazy, he called me repeatedly calling me terrible names, screaming at me, that he wants me out of his house and a divorce and even that "i will put you in the ground". He has always told me about this side of him that says the worst things immaginable when he gets really mad, but that ws the first I had seen of it. By the time morning came he had no recollection of it, just knew that he was mad. I filled him in and he felt and still does feel terrible and that he didn't mean a word of it. So for the past two weeks we've slowly been mending and outside of telling him the story of what he did, have not once yelled at him or scolded him or called him names or anything. Then today it happened again. A small little argument escalated into him telling me that he wants a divorce and me out of his life. So i grabbed a suitcase and 2 minutes later he was in the house telling me he didn't mean it. And again...I just let it happen. I hate making people feel bad and never insult people or say things that will deliberatly hurt them. But it makes me feel really weak that i am putting up with this emotional BS. Gosh...there is so much I could write, but I most of all just am wondering if anyone else out there is int he same situation?
he went way over the line. You should have kept going with your suitcase. if you love him and want the marriage to work out, your #1 condition to return was him going to counseling (marriage and anger management).
otherwise, you will come back here with worse stories.