Anger produces adrenaline which is either:
- Poisonous if you are inactive while boiling over OR
- Rocket fuel for a good workout
It is OK to feel angry about stuff. We all do. I try to simply remind myself to put away thoughts that make me very angry until I am in shorts, sneakers and a t-shirt ready to run, lift or both. And THEN I let myself think about anything that was bothering me and let the adrenaline loose while I run/lift it out of my system. When I am done I think about forgiveness and patience and the fact that nothing is improved by expressing fury at those we love. Whether or not your marriage survives, a consistent approach to managing your emotions will make all the difference in how your loved ones perceive you.
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Originally Posted by JMak00  I think I understand. A new relationship...leaving behind resentment, anger, insecurities, guilt, all the garbage that had built up and up. Is this kinda what you're getting at?
I just need to figure out, for now, how to act around her. How can I do that, how can I demonstrate that I am not only changing my behavior, but that I am respecting her, caring for her, supporting her...without exacerbating her current feelings of weakness, dependency, etc.?
Thanks, BBW.
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