| | Re: advice on what my wifes really saying
I'm sorry Oldpuller (very appropriate name by the sounds of it). Your post disgusts me, is sexist and manipulative and downright chauvanistic. Are you for real???
Dave, my stbxh never fought for me. Even when the drunken idiot over the road groped me and accidently burned me with his cigarette, my stbxh did nothing. If he grovelled, I'd think he was pathetic. But if he manned up and took responsibility for half of the issues in our marriage, there may have been some changes. Don't give her an ultimatum. Don't make her feel trapped in any way. Show her you can take the initiative. Go and have counselling. Get some information and organise a time to sit down with her and talk through some positive options. For God's sake, this is not a game. Do not try manipulating her. Treat her with respect and care and keep your dignity. Make yourself look good. Remind her of the package she married. And when you've done all that, build a time machine and go back 2 years and tell all this to my husband.