greeneyeddolphin

I would keep going to counseling with her, if that's what she wants, but I wouldn't get your hopes up that you two will get back together. Although she occasionally seems wishy-washy, for the most part, she does generally seem to stick to a theme of being unhappy with you and wanting to be done with the relationship.

It's hard to let go, whether you're the one doing the letting go or the one being let go. She's going to feel a lot of the same confusion and doubt that you are. I think if you really want any chance at all of getting her to come home, the best thing to do is to go to counseling and try to get to know her as she is now. Don't ask her anymore to come home, don't pressure her, don't even give her any indication you still want her to come home. A lack of attention from you, a lack of pressure, of desire to see/be with her, may be the only thing that will bring her back.