Update-
We had a really good long talk about how i was feeling and he just stared at the floor, i could tell he was struggling to not react but he kept at it and was really empathetic to what i was saying.A couple of times i started to get really angry, and i started to escalate but he always kept his tone of voice low and allowed me to vent. I told him i was angry that he had thought to go out and follow his chemistry and have the luxury of the vacation of being unfaithful but that's not the agreement we had within our relationship.I told him i was angry because his poor choices had severely damaged our relationship by those fleeting moments and i wasn't sure whether he was really ready to sit down and do the work that a relationship entails. I told him i wanted him to be able to come to me and let me know if he ever felt we were becoming distant,and i know it's not always easy because I think a lot of the time; men see the marriage and children as – ‘Wow, this is really serious and this is really heavy and I don't want to be this old and I don't want to be this responsible.'It's easier to run out and see someone that doesn't represent all that. But that is not healthy for the long-term goal of creating a family of trust together.He was very verbal and expressed a lot of his feelings and concerns also....I know its only been a week-but i dunno,i see some progress....
LadyInblue