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Originally Posted by draconis
From my side I can tell you at one time I made good money, my family never went without the things they wanted. A few years back for reasons beyond my control we lost all that. The fact of the matter is the love and support we had for one another kept us going reguardless of the situation. So you are not crazy to think that emotional support is important.
Maybe, withdrawl from his sides family function. He will ask you to go and question it. Tell him that you will not UNLESS he provides the protection to you you deserve. Point out to him YOU have done it with your famly, and you expect the same in return. The fact is he has made it so he doesn't have to deal with your family and you provided support for him.
It is hard to want the relationship to work well and I am against the general idea of doing something out of revenge but he needs a wake up call because he is delusional on what is really happening.
It is horrid that in todays age we expect more from women and keep cuddling men.
draconis
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i see what you mean and would very much like to put these guidelines into practice, but his reactions are too much for me to handle right now, i am emotionally too weak to handle them and will have to work on this first. i need to regain my emotional strength and consequently, my mental strength as well.
i actually suffered a miscarriage in the time that we were separated, he offered whatever support he could over the distance, but now that i'm physically present, we hardly talk about it. i've lost a lot, and so has he, but i dealt with all of it alone, and now that he has the chance to give me a little bit of support, he's not doing it.
but i guess it's my fault too, for i'm not communicating my needs. but fear of not being listened to or heard stops me from communicating. and that, again, is my mistake.