kajira

I'm not sure if this can help your situtation, however, I do have this to say. My mother-in-law has lived with me since I was first married (18 years). This has been a huge factor in the downfall of my marriage. I do love the woman dearly, however, I do not feel my husband has ever placed me before her. I know that may sound harsh, but it is honest. There needs to be boundries, ground rules. I let her set them and I was wrong. Therefore, my relationship lost out. I do'nt feel we were ever allowed the opprotunity to set the foundation for a postive relationship. I never have felt like the woman of the house. If I want something done one way, she does it her way, etc. I don't want the dogs in the house (that lasted three hours). In my case it became clear what I said didn't matter, or I was made to feel it didn't matter enough. The spouse needs to stand up for the other spouse..........