Originally Posted by the guy
I understand, my wife needed the same thing. I hadnt kissed her in years and she stayed with me, I quess it was her boytoys.
I think you and we all have our own situations, and there were times were she was "good" for years then she was "bad". I believe it was my behaviors that caused this. This was my point If he doesnt fix his behavior, you may relaps into another fake relationship for attention you are not getting.
I hope you find a way to get your husband to see what he is doing/or not doing.
I wish I could tell you what caused me to see the light after 19 years of a troubled marraige, but I believe it was God that turned on my light bulb, b/c my wife, was more and more heading for a very dangerous outcome to her past behaviors.
Again I hope some how you could show your husband what his behavior is doing to you- and he changes
God's word is what I was trying to use to open his eyes, as he comes from such a religous family... however, once I started this affair I felt hypocritical using His word when I was going against it. I did refernce still bc I still believe in my relationship with God... I have just disappointed the almighty Father with my choice... but he knows that we all make mistakes.
I dont know if my husband will ever see... there are times when I think he has... we had our first good month of our entire marriage this summer.... I thought we were headed in a good direction but when he gets comfortable he gets inattentive and actually lazy. He did express seeing that when we were having semi regular sex and time together we were happier.... but then he stops everything out of the blue.
I will keep trying what Jessi suggested and then go from there. Thanks for all your suggestions.