Facebook, texting, boundaries...
Reading these links, I can't believe the similarities through so many, and how some are so similar to my problem.
It kills me how easy it is to start cheating when you are "wired", and how easy it is to hide it.
It also kills me how many people are willing to get right into that kind of thing, even though they are married and/or the person they are talking to is married.
Its such a shame that so many marriages are in such trouble because of the ease of communication. It almost seems like people get into it so easy because its not "real"...but that just makes it so much easier to become real. A little flirting, a little sexting, and then the inocent lunch...
Its like people don't observe the same boundaries on line or by text that they would in person. Honestly, I find it a little cowardly- in particular the men that I know say things to my wife on line that they would never say to her face.
I hope everyone can become a little more aware on this front, and try to find a set of on line manners. I've never gone down that road on line myself, but confess to at least thinking "I wonder how X is doing...what would be the harm of looking her up and friending her?". Kind of true, but tread softly! ...and be ready to offer the same openess in these communications that you wish your spouse would offer you.
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