| | Re: Contacting the OMW
I contacted the husband of the OW but that did not help me at all really. He had already suspected an affair and their marriage was in trouble for years. His wife completely refused to work on the marriage. She was one of those that would say: "No I don't need counselling, you do". At the recommendation of my lawyer I did not meet the husband of the OW until my divorce was final. I did meet him this past Monday and finally showed him the proof I have gathered. I also wanted to find out more about his wife, what kind of a person she was, what she liked, disliked. This was mostly for my own information because I got no answers from my husband to really tell me what caused him to have an affair. Heck he still denies it to this day. And everytime I would mention something about the affair during these last 6-7 months he would just not say anything, absolutely nothing. You would think if someone made false accusations about yourself you would stand up and say something in your own defence.
But I would say definitely contact the OW/M. Many times when both WS are busted they return to work on the marriage. But of course every situation is different but all in all I think it is a good idea to contact the spouse of the OM/W