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MIGhunter · 09-27-2010, 06:32 AM

I really don't know where to begin. My wife and I have been married for 15 years. The 1st 5 were awesome and I think part of that has to do with the fact I was in the Navy in CA. We spent a lot of time outside and with friends having cookouts.

In 1999, I got out of the Navy with the intention to goto medical school. When my wife realized I was going to be in school for 7 years at $25+/year, she felt it was a bad idea. I didn't finish school and now I work as a Unit Coordinator in an ER. It's not a bad job but the pay is only $15/hour.

During my time in school, I started playing some online video games, in which she says I'm addicted to them. She suffers from some depression and spends a lot of time in the bedroom sleeping and watching tv, so I play games with my online friends.

Aside from her depression she has Cystic fibrosis, endometreosis and now they wanna say her pelvic pain is from fibromyalgia.

Because of these medical problems, she isn't intimate at all. She doesn't want to have sex ever, which is frustrating to me. Which in turn makes me angry which makes her not want to have sex even more which makes me retire to another room. This cycle has gone on and now I can't even say we are good roommates. Her father died from Agent Orange Cancer while we were in the Navy which has left her with this inability to stay attached to me. She feels like I am going to leave her. She is too strong and stubborn for that so she tells me to leave a lot. She constantly tells me she would have no trouble finding someone new.

She has gone from a very well put together woman to someone who doesn't pick up after herself, can't keep money under control. Is so bad with bills that we didn't have electricity for 2.5 months. She spends a lot on the kids. I mean like instead of buying groceries, buying a few snacks and then buying them clothes and video games.

I love my wife very much but I don't know what to do. I don't understand how she has no desire for sex or intemacy. She doesn't even like to cuddle anymore since her hysterectomy, she's always hot. I don't want to end things but should I just cut my losses?

09-27-2010, 06:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
MIGhunter Registered User Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 3	Savng my Marriage I really don't know where to begin. My wife and I have been married for 15 years. The 1st 5 were awesome and I think part of that has to do with the fact I was in the Navy in CA. We spent a lot of time outside and with friends having cookouts. In 1999, I got out of the Navy with the intention to goto medical school. When my wife realized I was going to be in school for 7 years at $25+/year, she felt it was a bad idea. I didn't finish school and now I work as a Unit Coordinator in an ER. It's not a bad job but the pay is only $15/hour. During my time in school, I started playing some online video games, in which she says I'm addicted to them. She suffers from some depression and spends a lot of time in the bedroom sleeping and watching tv, so I play games with my online friends. Aside from her depression she has Cystic fibrosis, endometreosis and now they wanna say her pelvic pain is from fibromyalgia. Because of these medical problems, she isn't intimate at all. She doesn't want to have sex ever, which is frustrating to me. Which in turn makes me angry which makes her not want to have sex even more which makes me retire to another room. This cycle has gone on and now I can't even say we are good roommates. Her father died from Agent Orange Cancer while we were in the Navy which has left her with this inability to stay attached to me. She feels like I am going to leave her. She is too strong and stubborn for that so she tells me to leave a lot. She constantly tells me she would have no trouble finding someone new. She has gone from a very well put together woman to someone who doesn't pick up after herself, can't keep money under control. Is so bad with bills that we didn't have electricity for 2.5 months. She spends a lot on the kids. I mean like instead of buying groceries, buying a few snacks and then buying them clothes and video games. I love my wife very much but I don't know what to do. I don't understand how she has no desire for sex or intemacy. She doesn't even like to cuddle anymore since her hysterectomy, she's always hot. I don't want to end things but should I just cut my losses?