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Old 09-27-2010, 04:08 PM   #7 (permalink)
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The waiting game is difficult and hard to bare some times. But your husband is showing a willingness to work things out. I know the feeling of a lack of control you currently have, it's difficult but sometimes is a necessary part of the process. When a spouse disconnects because of a lack of attention, respect... from the other an emotional wall is built. It can be very difficult to bring down. My lack of attention to my wife's emotional needs drove her to find another man that would. The wall was huge and I got the ILYBANILWY speech. A few month later her telling me she was in love with him and didn't think we were going to make it. She was convinced her feelings for me would never come back. They did. Our recovery was very long but we had a lot of walls to tear down and baggage to throw away. We are happier now in our marriage than we have been in years.
You husband has stated he wants the marriage to improve and that is a huge statement from him. Hang in there on the days like these, they will hopefully become a distant memory soon. Good luck.
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