Originally Posted by 827Aug

You've got a lot going on in your marriage. You and your wife need to begin by identifying each problem. Then, focus on which problems can be fixed. And I know it isn't going to be easy because it sounds as though you will be going it alone.

I'm assuming your wife had a complete hysterectomy where her ovaries were removed. Is she currently taking hormones? If not, there are some good therapies available. The best is where the hormones are custom made for a patient based on individual lab tests. I have seen great results from those. Has her thyroid been checked?

There were times I felt as your wife does. I now understand that a lot of my feelings/behaviors were just due to the fact I didn't feel loved. You in turn are not feeling loved. It's a very difficult cycle to break. If you haven't already read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, now would be a good time to do so. The book will give you insight on how to stop the current cycle.

You may want to look into couple's counseling as well. I really hope you can turn things around.