Originally Posted by 827Aug
You've got a lot going on in your marriage. You and your wife need to begin by identifying each problem. Then, focus on which problems can be fixed. And I know it isn't going to be easy because it sounds as though you will be going it alone.
I'm assuming your wife had a complete hysterectomy where her ovaries were removed. Is she currently taking hormones? If not, there are some good therapies available. The best is where the hormones are custom made for a patient based on individual lab tests. I have seen great results from those. Has her thyroid been checked?
There were times I felt as your wife does. I now understand that a lot of my feelings/behaviors were just due to the fact I didn't feel loved. You in turn are not feeling loved. It's a very difficult cycle to break. If you haven't already read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, now would be a good time to do so. The book will give you insight on how to stop the current cycle.
You may want to look into couple's counseling as well. I really hope you can turn things around.
(This book "The Five Love Languages") it does have a lot of things in it that would be able help you- also you can read "Fighting for your marriage- By Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley and Susan L. Blumberg
That book will tell you even more than the other one. Best bet is to get the two of them together. I did that back six years ago when I was feeling unloved, unwanted, and many more things- it will help and yes, "The Five Love Languages" is a really good book