LilBit35

Just know he will keep lying to you if you let him....he doesnt know how to let go of her! It sounds crazy but its not over til its over. If they have any contact it has not ended no matter were he works! My husband went 6 wks were he called her, text her and was WORKING on it with me....believe me he will be mad and sad and crazy and desperate....YOU will too it is not easy and you may even decided to take a breather and ask him to leave...I know your saying yeah right to let him do or see who ever he wants? Well he is doing it anyway there is nothing you can say or do that will change his mind unless you show him that you mean it! He will go through a withdrawl from her and you will think he has lost his dang on mind and he has its ok....he needs to grieve the loss of her and the loss of his marriage....he will have to deal with this and it is going to kill you....You will love him and hate him, want him to stay and want him to go just know that this is all normal...you will check his phone, his computer and you will question him but when he does turn around and tell you the truth it makes it easier to stop the crazy detective work.....My DDAY was 07212010 and he did not tell me the OW did and he did everything I have told you your husband will do and finally I said ENOUGH.....we are now seperated because I needed a breather...YES we are both commited but he knows that I mean it that there will be no more lies....there will be no more secrets or he will never come home...Be strong dont loose yourself.....