Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Playing games, an accidental observation.

AWife · 10-01-2010, 10:40 AM

I am not one for drama, playing games, manipulation, etc. I expect the same in return. I accidently did something last night tho and I’m wondering if I haven’t been missing something. (Not seriously.) My husband and I have been in an avoidance pattern for the last couple of weeks. After dinner he’s been outside until usually after I go to bed. I’m usually cleaning house and preparing for the next day. Anyways...

After dinner I got my laptop and sat on the couch. I was messing around with my daughter on Facebook. Husband went outside. I got on this forum was reading and responding to posts. Husband came in to get something. I’m sure he noticed the dishes in the sink, the washing machine not running, etc. He stops.

H - What are you doing?
W - Nothing. Just messing around on Facebook.
H - Oh.

Husband goes back outside. Not 20 minutes later he comes back in again appearing to get something from the kitchen. He stops again.

H - You sure are typing a lot. What are you doing?
W - Nothing really. Just relaxing.
H - As fast as you type you must have a novel by now.
W - I’m just working on something a little personal that I’m not ready to share.
H - Oh.

Husband goes back outside. Again, approximately 20 minutes later (the kids are in bed by now) he comes back in and sits on the couch. Not next to me but on the other couch. Still in the same room tho. He turns on the TV and, rather than putting on the Food Channel or Overhauling or something that would cause everyone to run from the room, he finds my favorite show. WOW

I put the computer away. We have some pleasant small talk and watch TV. Maybe life will be a little better when I get home from work tonight. Did I unknowingly make him jealous?

10-01-2010, 10:40 AM	#1 (permalink)
AWife Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: CA Posts: 100	Playing games, an accidental observation. I am not one for drama, playing games, manipulation, etc. I expect the same in return. I accidently did something last night tho and I’m wondering if I haven’t been missing something. (Not seriously.) My husband and I have been in an avoidance pattern for the last couple of weeks. After dinner he’s been outside until usually after I go to bed. I’m usually cleaning house and preparing for the next day. Anyways... After dinner I got my laptop and sat on the couch. I was messing around with my daughter on Facebook. Husband went outside. I got on this forum was reading and responding to posts. Husband came in to get something. I’m sure he noticed the dishes in the sink, the washing machine not running, etc. He stops. H - What are you doing? W - Nothing. Just messing around on Facebook. H - Oh. Husband goes back outside. Not 20 minutes later he comes back in again appearing to get something from the kitchen. He stops again. H - You sure are typing a lot. What are you doing? W - Nothing really. Just relaxing. H - As fast as you type you must have a novel by now. W - I’m just working on something a little personal that I’m not ready to share. H - Oh. Husband goes back outside. Again, approximately 20 minutes later (the kids are in bed by now) he comes back in and sits on the couch. Not next to me but on the other couch. Still in the same room tho. He turns on the TV and, rather than putting on the Food Channel or Overhauling or something that would cause everyone to run from the room, he finds my favorite show. WOW I put the computer away. We have some pleasant small talk and watch TV. Maybe life will be a little better when I get home from work tonight. Did I unknowingly make him jealous?