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oceanbreeze · 10-30-2007, 06:03 AM

my fiance and i have been together 6 years now. the stupidest thing we fight over is food. i guess i become greedy. the big fights usually over insecurites, jealousy, and money and the BIGGEST one is his mother. whenever he sees her and then my family and i or just myself sees him afterwards... it's like he's been poisoned. he's not someone to be around after he has seen her. all these emotions he has towards his mother conflict within himself and his face even seems to get distorted in a pain that i dont know how to explain.

if he wants to cause an arguement i just say, "what you want start an argument?" and he says no and i say so "what is bothering you? what happened today that's making you upset?"

but when i get mad and into an argument, and being that he ISNT so articulate in verbal communication, our fights tend to last a month or two. and it's not everyday. it's about 5 minutes every couple of days that i bring it up until all the information is out and i know okay that this is it, it's done. usually, to have an argument with him is even difficult because he just shuts off and then there's nothing at all. so this is why i do the little by little every few days until things just finally unfold. get's tiring, but he's been getting pretty good at just coming out with it these days.

10-30-2007, 06:03 AM	#20 (permalink)
oceanbreeze Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 71	Re: Arguments my fiance and i have been together 6 years now. the stupidest thing we fight over is food. i guess i become greedy. the big fights usually over insecurites, jealousy, and money and the BIGGEST one is his mother. whenever he sees her and then my family and i or just myself sees him afterwards... it's like he's been poisoned. he's not someone to be around after he has seen her. all these emotions he has towards his mother conflict within himself and his face even seems to get distorted in a pain that i dont know how to explain. if he wants to cause an arguement i just say, "what you want start an argument?" and he says no and i say so "what is bothering you? what happened today that's making you upset?" but when i get mad and into an argument, and being that he ISNT so articulate in verbal communication, our fights tend to last a month or two. and it's not everyday. it's about 5 minutes every couple of days that i bring it up until all the information is out and i know okay that this is it, it's done. usually, to have an argument with him is even difficult because he just shuts off and then there's nothing at all. so this is why i do the little by little every few days until things just finally unfold. get's tiring, but he's been getting pretty good at just coming out with it these days.