Originally Posted by cabin
Maybe I am overreacting but where I come from that just isnt done. maybe its a cultural thing that i just dont understand. she comes from a wealthy family...me, not so much. I guess i just havent been exposed to it as much as others.
I did just ask her though if she would tell our kids about it (down the road) and said "my parents never lied to me". I think that telling kids that there mom used blow in college is a HORRIBLE idea. Others?
No disrespect intended, but your view on culture or wealth is pretty ignorant. I read more of your thread...you cheated while dating, is that something only poor people do? Only wealthy people know how to forgive?
Being honest with kids is good thing, she is not going to tell them, "Mom got coked up an banged five guys!!", maybe the two of you could say, "Both of us made mistakes while growing up, mistakes that we are proud of, so if you are thinking of experimenting with drugs think again, it causes everyone around you nothing but pain."
You have other issues to worry about, like why are you caught up in the past, her past? Do you feel like you are not good enough?
If your wife loves you, is open with you then you are a lucky man. Focus on the now and growing together, digging up the past is only going to dig up your roots...the foundation you have poured together.
Get over it!