Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Anyone of you in a long term relationship smoke weed?

TNgirl232 · 10-05-2010, 10:45 PM

No I don't smoke, but I assume this is like any hobby or habit that a significant other doesn't particularly like - smoking, drinking, porn, etc. If its legal where you are, then that's not a reason to quit.

Did she say why she thinks it will affect your relationship? I think that would be very telling in whether it is something you stop doing.

The other factor is....long term, can she truly love you enough to be ok with you smoking occasionally, and not just say she is ok with it and then get resentful and 5 years down the road lash out at you for it....or can you truly love her enough to be ok with stopping for her and not lash out later on because she is trying to control you?

Its not really so much about whether you do or don't as if one of you is committed enough to the relationship to change fo and/or accept who the other person is.

10-05-2010, 10:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
TNgirl232 Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 570	Re: Anyone of you in a long term relationship smoke weed? No I don't smoke, but I assume this is like any hobby or habit that a significant other doesn't particularly like - smoking, drinking, porn, etc. If its legal where you are, then that's not a reason to quit. Did she say why she thinks it will affect your relationship? I think that would be very telling in whether it is something you stop doing. The other factor is....long term, can she truly love you enough to be ok with you smoking occasionally, and not just say she is ok with it and then get resentful and 5 years down the road lash out at you for it....or can you truly love her enough to be ok with stopping for her and not lash out later on because she is trying to control you? Its not really so much about whether you do or don't as if one of you is committed enough to the relationship to change fo and/or accept who the other person is.