Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Should I be happy or is she just trying to be nice

Zulu · 10-06-2010, 05:10 AM

Ok, so bit more info. On the 11th we have a joint with the councillor and so should get some more clarity there, she wants to talk about finances and the children. Also, the last few days she has been e-mailing me and making arrangements for the children etc.. picking up and dropping off etc.... 2 children that need to be in 2 different places at the same time on Saturday... she also came by the house this morning and let my youngest come in to get his cricket bat. She did call from outside, something which she never normally did. She also starts her text messages with "Hi" and ends with "S"... as in her mails... I am just wondering if this is not some kind of realisation she has had, or just her trying to be amicable, or testing the water for a recon... or if she just wants to be friends.

Those that have been in this situation before, is this a pattern or am I just hyper sensitive. I have in the last 2 months not initiated contact by either text or e-mail or calling her. We have had 2 occassions of my son's birthday that we were all together but I was cool, and not trying to get her back or what ever... just being "backed off".

I know this is a hard one because each case on it's merits and each person is different... but don't be afraid to post your opinion.

10-06-2010, 05:10 AM	#23 (permalink)
Zulu Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Cape Town Posts: 121	Re: Should I be happy or is she just trying to be nice Ok, so bit more info. On the 11th we have a joint with the councillor and so should get some more clarity there, she wants to talk about finances and the children. Also, the last few days she has been e-mailing me and making arrangements for the children etc.. picking up and dropping off etc.... 2 children that need to be in 2 different places at the same time on Saturday... she also came by the house this morning and let my youngest come in to get his cricket bat. She did call from outside, something which she never normally did. She also starts her text messages with "Hi" and ends with "S"... as in her mails... I am just wondering if this is not some kind of realisation she has had, or just her trying to be amicable, or testing the water for a recon... or if she just wants to be friends. Those that have been in this situation before, is this a pattern or am I just hyper sensitive. I have in the last 2 months not initiated contact by either text or e-mail or calling her. We have had 2 occassions of my son's birthday that we were all together but I was cool, and not trying to get her back or what ever... just being "backed off". I know this is a hard one because each case on it's merits and each person is different... but don't be afraid to post your opinion.