Originally Posted by Wisp
Please PM Tanelorpete for advice on the next steps
Your a long way off and there is always a risk for the turn for the worst, always assume the worst so you are not shocked when it happens,
When you speak to her family be very civil , and ask for their help suggest they call her after a few days when the realisation sets in.
Remember Jim will also be under pressure, they will talk, create plans get emotional , I suspect very emotional based on their behaviours you have described in the past.
Your one and only target for now is to stop the affair thereafter win you wife back
Suggest after talking to the family let things lay for a short while you assess what is going on..
If she does go to the lawyer say you are going to fight for your marriage and want joint counselling - better advice will be forth coming from the experts.
Sounds like my story just add a 2.9 year old kid to it. I am feeling ****** but have to put on a bold face for my son. I am posted in India and my wife thought she couldn't live here and so moved to spend time with her parents to a different country. I supported her all along as i understand India could be a difficult country. the affair should be about 3 months old but discovered it 1 week back. Since she was in the afffair all i heard from her was "I love you but am not in love with you". This is an office affair.
I cant approach the CEO or the HR of her office as the person she is having an affair is with THE CEO. I have contacted him he denied and the affair continues. Next day sent him a cease and desist mail to end the affair (with copies of his SMS and hr long calls to my wife) which he is not responded to.
After she got to know i exposed it to her "CEO" she hates me and blames me for everything. I have taken care of the kid for the last 2.9 yrs. I am unable to get in touch with her "CEO's" wife I wish could but not working.
She says she now is convinced that she needs a divorce as i was never a good husband and now have brought her shame.
She threatened to call my parents to let them know that she cant live with me any more and would file a divorce. I spoke about this to my mum and called my wife back the next day and handed the phone to my mum so she could have a word but my wife hung up.
I found that this guy was checking and reading my mails to my wife. So sent him and my wife this morning an email mentioning that he should stop reading my emails. He is himself married with two kids and is married for 12 yrs. I wanted to let my wife know that he is trying to be more controlling than i ever was because she accused me of this.
In this whole process i have not got in touch with my wife, all i did was sent her a mail saying she is always welcome provided she comes out of her fantasy land and says sorry to out son for what she has been doing. I will be doing a few more exposures tomorrow.
PLS HELP!!!! I want to save this marriage....