| | Wife and kids walked out yesterday
Together for 8yrs. Married for 3yrs. Wife is 28 I'm 30
I came home last night from work to find my wife packed up and our 2 daughters (2 1/2 & 2months) dressed and ready to go. My wife sat on the couch upset and would not talk. When she did she only said that I've told you before! I need some time to myself she's going to her parents for a few days and that she couldn't do it anymore.....
Shell shocked by all this and not wanting to cause a big scene in front my of girls, I watched them load into the car and leave. Just like that I was @ home and everything important to me walked out the door... Happened so quickly
As I sat in the dark living room trying to replay what just happened and that it was maybe a bad dream. I began thinking of the issues that led up this. I know I haven't been perfect (realistically who can say they have been) However I felt like I have given it all I could and it always seems to come up just a little short.
We had a conversation last year about this very thing that she needed more help around the house. I began taking on more of the household chores to ease the burden. However we would get into fights when I would find her re-doing or taking over the very things I said I would help out with *because they weren't done right or when she wanted them to be done*. I explained how this made me feel but she would go right back to it and I ended up leaving it for her. Since I was not doing it the right way (her way).
With my work schedule I am up and out the door by 7am and not home again until 7pm as I have 90+min commute to work every day. So by the time I get home, have supper and play with the girls there is very little time to do any "chores" I try and relax and spend some time with my wife before going to bed.
I have been thinking about the fork in the road that is ahead of me and not sure what path I am destined to go down. On one hand I do not want to go through this anymore. I'm tired of being blamed for petty things and for things that I have no control over. On the other hand I love my girls more then life itself and do not want to lose them. Although I understand that I may not have a choice in the matter if my wife chooses to leave.
I am so very lost and sad about this. As much as this has started to sink in today I am sure the reality will really hit when I go home to an empty house tonight after work.
This is in Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Last edited by what_to_do; 10-06-2010 at 11:46 AM.