tarheel68

I have a question for others ,,, myself im in second marriage and have been comepletly faithful in this marriage . In my first marriage i had an affair and quite honestly couldnt live with the guilt even though our marriage had alot of issues . Question: How long did it take you to break it off with the other man/woman and how many chances did your spouse give you after you promised to stop having contact with the other person,,


Reason i ask, My wife has had an affair and even after she told me she would have no other contact with this guy ,i caught her lying . This affair was only found out less than 2 weeks ago and i know it is hard to break ties with someone you have grown to have feelings for and i am trying to be understanding but i want that chapter closed .

Im not at fault in this situation, i have neglected my wifes pleas for more time and understanding of her needs ..We have communicated alot in the past 2 weeks and we both have said we want to work it out . I want to be the husband she wants and we are going to start with a councellor tommorow

So if i could get some input from everyone ,,would be greatly appreciated