Originally Posted by AFEH
Wow I didn't know it had a name. This stuff is so weird I thought it was more or less unique in my wife. Those that gunnysack should get a life sentence. I guess they have a life sentence in a way as they never rid themselves of real or perceived offences. They carry them with them to their grave.
Sorry to intrude on this discussion which is not a rant, but seeing Bob's post --
I wonder if gunnysacking is part and parcel of BPD behavior. My ex brought up everything I ever did that offended her over the course of 16 years every time I did anything that offended her.
As far as life sentence, I think she got it, pushed all her close friends away sooner or later, has lived alone since my youngest went to university, neither kid ever spent more than a week in her house since the mid 90's.
Meanwhile my youngest wants to take care of me when I move to SF in November. He selected a building for me a block from his offering almost new furnished apartments on a month by month basis.