Honey

You know, like with anything, there is good and bad. Maybe you spoke to the wrong person. He made her feel like everything is her, her, her. They have to speak on how to change what is wrong, not point fingers to just one person. When they do this, that person goes into defense mode, and does not want to go back again. If you get a good one, they will know what to say to get to the problem w/o making things worse on you two. Why not try talking to someone that deals with Marriage problems. You should feel like they are helping you, not making things worse for you. I guess this guy wasn't all that and a bag of chips for her (your wife), or he did something she didn't like, so she came back to you. You too need not dwell on the past, whipe everything clean and try to start over again. Marry her again, and be more romantic and loving. Maybe this will change her to not find things wrong with you. Like don't do the dishes right ..etc. Watch the way she does things and try to do it like she would do it, might help too. Good luck to you !