Originally Posted by nice777guy
I'm a bit confused. You've been married for over 20 years, right? In a thread you started about a month ago you described your wife as being conservative in bed and, at times, lacking enthusiasm for trying new things.
Sometimes it sounds like you are bragging about your sex life - very frequent, multiple orgasms, 7 days in a row, etc. But at the same time, you aren't happy.
It sounds to me like your wife does not want to do certain things - but you REALLY REALLY want her to do these things (esp. anal). Since you can't quite convince her on your own, you sought out "help" from this board. But instead of getting help, you are now arguing with any advice given by anyone who disagrees with you.
I think instead of arguing so much, you need to spend more time reading and trying to understand what the people here are trying to tell you.
I am listening....and I am applying what I've learned here...I tell my wife about how women here don't agree with me expecting her to be in bed extacly what my fantacies are....in addition, among my problems with my wife, was that she neglected me during the day....I would write to her and she did not answer me....I would do so many romantic things for her and at night she wouldn't really show much exitment to do anything special.....it is not about quantity, is about quality when you have been with the same person for 20 years....trust me if your wife gives you a lot of vaginal sex where you are the only one doing most of the work, you'll end up recenting your wife....we, men, need to be taken care off too.....and the way we feel this, is when the woman show us that they really want us....you know what I mean...I had have a lot of problems trying to get my wife to understand me why I need this...I need to feel sexy and wanted...she wouldn't do either....now it is happening....and I thank this forum becasue it gave me a different perspective......