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lef15 · 10-15-2010, 12:04 PM

My wife of 13 years had a 6 week affair with a man at work. they are both teachers and work closely together. The physical affair ended 2 weeks ago when she broke down and told me the truth. However, she still works with him everyday and still talks to him everyday. She talks to him about me and wanting to fix our marriage. But she seems more concerned with his feelings than mine. She will admit that she does this and has disconnected from me, our son, and our life together. But she says she wants to fix things. She claims the problem is her feelings about herself, not me and not him. I don't know what to do. I know not want to leave, but I can not keep feeling so bad all of the time.

10-15-2010, 12:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
lef15 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 7	The physical affair is over but she still is emotionally involved...now what My wife of 13 years had a 6 week affair with a man at work. they are both teachers and work closely together. The physical affair ended 2 weeks ago when she broke down and told me the truth. However, she still works with him everyday and still talks to him everyday. She talks to him about me and wanting to fix our marriage. But she seems more concerned with his feelings than mine. She will admit that she does this and has disconnected from me, our son, and our life together. But she says she wants to fix things. She claims the problem is her feelings about herself, not me and not him. I don't know what to do. I know not want to leave, but I can not keep feeling so bad all of the time.