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Blanca · 10-02-2008, 09:05 PM

Personally if it had to get this bad for him to even think about changing, then I dont think you should even look back. If you do go back, odds are he'll revert back but just get better at hiding it. Of course that's just my opinion and having delt with a porn addict, im a little bitter. so take it for what its worth.

If you have to threaten to leave for him to do anything, then that's the only time he will change. he's not changing because he wants to, or because he feels any kind of remorse for what he's done to you, he's saying sorry only because he doesnt want to be upset by losing you. If you take him back he'll get comfortable again and you'll have to threaten him again, only it will be less effective the next time. Separate for a year and see if he actually changes.

10-02-2008, 09:05 PM	#7 (permalink)
Blanca Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2,607	Re: Christian woman unsure Personally if it had to get this bad for him to even think about changing, then I dont think you should even look back. If you do go back, odds are he'll revert back but just get better at hiding it. Of course that's just my opinion and having delt with a porn addict, im a little bitter. so take it for what its worth. If you have to threaten to leave for him to do anything, then that's the only time he will change. he's not changing because he wants to, or because he feels any kind of remorse for what he's done to you, he's saying sorry only because he doesnt want to be upset by losing you. If you take him back he'll get comfortable again and you'll have to threaten him again, only it will be less effective the next time. Separate for a year and see if he actually changes.