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DawnD · 10-22-2010, 04:23 PM

I am not sure how long ago the bad judgement was made with money, but at this point I would ask him to go to the free financial counselors on post with you, make a budget and make a rough one for when he deploys also. Talk about where you want money and how much you want where. Then talk with your Marriage counselor about how trust goes both ways and he needs to trust you with the money again. Make it to where he can also view it and agree that if your spending gets out of control or you do not uphold the agreement that you made ( unless there was an emergency) that he will then kick his plan into action, and the amount he gives you access to needs to be discussed beforehand. Does that make sense or did I just talk in a circle??

10-22-2010, 04:23 PM	#39 (permalink)
DawnD Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,937	Re: Is it worth it? I am not sure how long ago the bad judgement was made with money, but at this point I would ask him to go to the free financial counselors on post with you, make a budget and make a rough one for when he deploys also. Talk about where you want money and how much you want where. Then talk with your Marriage counselor about how trust goes both ways and he needs to trust you with the money again. Make it to where he can also view it and agree that if your spending gets out of control or you do not uphold the agreement that you made ( unless there was an emergency) that he will then kick his plan into action, and the amount he gives you access to needs to be discussed beforehand. Does that make sense or did I just talk in a circle??